Pregnancy Over 40, Trying To Conceive Over 40 - Dealing With Others
If you're struggling with infertility, you know those awful feelings of being left behind when someone else announces their pregnancy.Even after my successful pregnancy, I still get slightly irritated with people who take their pregnancy for granted. I recall once, an extended family member who knew of my six year journey through infertility and miscarriage, announced her pregnancy at a family gathering. She went on to say: "it only took us two months to get pregnant!" I already had given birth to my daughter when this happened, but I still had a moment of rage pass through me - I had to refrain from saying something I would regret later. It seemed to me that the only reason she brought that up was because everyone knew it took me so long to have a baby.
Even though I wholeheartedly recommend joining an infertility support group (especially since I previously ran one), there is one part of it that can be difficult - when others get pregnant before you. Most people eventually succeed and many will succeed before you. Remember, this is not a race. Everyone's life has its own set of twists and turns. What comes easily for some doesn't come so easily for others. I'm sure other people look at you and envy some aspect of your life. Things will fall into place when the time is right. Just because someone else has a baby before you, it doesn't mean your chances are any less. By the way, my family member I mentioned above had numerous complications with her pregnancy, delivered prematurely, had a c-section, a difficult post-partum period, and her baby required quite a bit of extra care. I assure you, I take no pleasure in her struggles - I'm happy that she and her baby pulled through. But in retrospect, it just goes to show you that there's no reason to automatically assume that the first one who gets pregnant has some kind of charmed life. Stay the course and know that everything will work out for the best.